We then had a "straight" man in his 30's with his wife and young children, who said: "At last they can do what the rest of America can do, and that's marry." Interviewer: "Are you sure this is good for your children?" Man: "Absolutely. They should learn about tolerance." And so the older, blue collar guy who was openly gay was against radical gay activism, while the younger hetero guy was all for it, even for pre-school children.
This contrast in generations is nothing new, but it seems now to be broadening at an astonishing clip. Gay marriage is just one of many issues or perspectives that highlight the contrast - patriotism, religious affiliation, sexual encounters, hetero marriage and views of the nation and world in general are all viewed from perspectives stunningly different from those of past generations, including those from the baby-boom set who were so proud of their revolutionary ideas. They - we - are old-hat now. Contrast these perspectives with those of a century ago and we are in another world altogether; from 6 centuries ago and we are in another dimension. To say that we are changing at light speed in every way - technologically and socially and personally - is to put it mildly.
In this blog, I have touched on the positive or negative possibilities for our age because it seems so obvious that we cannot continue as we are. As social norms drop at an increasing rate, we are left with only bureaucratic government or worse to fill in the spaces; bad because bureaucratic government is amoral and exists only to perpetuate itself, and worse, that we get some totalitarian masters to control us. No - for any decent life, we need to settle on new norms, even as these somehow include constant change, if that is possible.
But there is also the possibility that we simply don't know what we're talking about. Just as we may have invented a God that is mammalian in characteristics against a greater reality, so we might have invented a crises that does not exist in a greater sense. Perhaps our struggles with normative society and crime and so on are only tangential tips to an iceberg that we - even our great theologians - cannot see. Perhaps there is no real evolution or de-volution, no direction or misdirection, but merely spirit alighting in form in various geometries according to a cosmic plan about which we are clueless. There is, after all, an "overmind," in us all, one that we have all witnessed, from resolutions to problems in the middle of the night to true transcendence of overall daily life. "It" knows; it knows that the party we miss or attend will lead to meeting the woman we will marry, and to the life we will have; "It" knows that the decision to drop out of college will lead to a career that will bring a different and more individualistic kind of fulfillment; "It" also knows the inklings of the cosmic plan. But does this plan include ANY of our current or past social notions of good or bad, of a right direction or a wrong direction?
I personally don't like that possibility, for right and wrong seem fairly obvious to me. On the other hand, gay sex, let alone gay marriage, was seen almost universally as abhorrent only 40 years ago. Is it any less wrong or more right in a greater sense now than 40 years ago? Abortion was murder, sex outside of marriage immoral, going to church crucial, warfare necessary and even glorious, and one's side was always right. That last notion hasn't changed, but who, then, knows what is right? Who, in their daily lives, even knows what is real?
That is a real question - who really knows? And of course, we are necessarily thrown back to the great spiritual sages of our time. It seems that it might be the time to re-read them for the Truth they may hold in the midst of radical change and relativism. And so we are, have been, and will do so again. FK